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「幸せ度」を上げれば嫉妬は消える!?嫉妬を和らげる為の「幸せ度」を上げるコツ

嫉妬の炎を消すには、2つ方法があります。

1つは嫉妬心そのものの歪みをとる方法。

 

もう1つは、嫉妬の対極にある「幸せ度」を上げる方法です。

今日は「質問の順番を変えて、嫉妬心を和らげるコツ」をご紹介します。

考えてみて下さい。

あなたが結婚したくてたまらないアラフォー女性だとします。

 

そんな時、

 

あなたは結婚していますか?あなたは幸せですか?

 

と聞かれた時の幸せ度と、

 

あなたは幸せですか?あなたは結婚していますか?

 

と聞かれた時の幸せ度。

どちらが高いでしょうか。

 

後者=あなたは幸せですか?あなたは結婚していますか?

ですよね。

 

私たちは、自分が持っていないものを思い浮かべてから、

自分は今幸せだろうか?と考えてしまうと、

それを持つ人につい嫉妬してしまいます。

 

そうではなく、自分が持っているものを思い浮かべてから、

自分は今幸せかな?と問いかけると、

嫉妬の炎がだんだん小さくなりますよ。

柊 りおん

柊 りおん

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